I’ve made many mistakes in my life and while I know they are mistakes, I don’t regret making them. I have learned by making these mistakes. The biggest majority of mistakes are financial. I have been a shopaholic in the past, I’ve been working on that and now I’m in the process of paying off the debt that I amassed by doing so. I have never (nor do I ever) expect for someone to bail me out. I got myself into this mess and I have to get myself out of it. And with me being down to only one job, I have to be way more of a better steward of my finances than ever. I have to find ways to cut back, no matter if I like it or not, and that has lead to some rather tense exchanges between my boyfriend and I. I know that finances are always a sticky subject, but I have to make adjustments to my spending habits and while they may not be the choices that others would make, I have to do what is right for me. Which seems to be reducing the amount I drive, which means going to see my boyfriend less often; however, I-85 runs both ways, right?
I hope this doesn’t upset him, but I just wanted to say this.
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June 30, 2009 12:37 pm
you guys should alternate weekends. less arguing and could actually be fun for both of you…
June 30, 2009 12:53 pm
Jonathan, I hope all works out for ya bud. I had dug myself in a mess financially and tried to get myself out on my own, I am not ashamed to say this, but my parents refinanced the house so I could pay off the creditors to then pay the monthly mortgage, that and a car payment and driving back and forth to work each day adds another bill to my tab and it all does add up. I used to wish I could find a boyfriend close by so I didn’t have to use up too much gas, nowadays I just wish for a boyfriend period. LOL ( I know, one day he will come).
There have been many a time that I had to stay in as monies were way too tight, I even took out two loans against my 401k to help me (just paid those off). Yet, I will not be fully free until this mortgage is paid off (10 more years or winning the lottery). I’ve even thanks to losing my hair had to shave my head myself each week, I don’t mind it, but it used to cost me $20 every two weeks as my hair grew way too fast, still does, just stubbly.
Guess I am trying to say that most gay men in their course of life get into a financial conundrum of sorts and money then becomes tight and bills pile up. This has happened to me, my best friend and several others that I know. We will overcome as we are only human beings and had life lessons to learn, in certain cases like this, we learn the hard way – this makes us wiser and we will overcome eventually, but patience and compromise are needed along the way.
I don’t know Scott, but what I read from you and know you do seem to travel lots to visit him – it should be a two way street, lord knows we have way too many one ways around.
Truly wish the best to you.
June 30, 2009 7:25 pm
JT, hang in there, if he loves you he will help you through this, some how. I am still hoping for a job to open up for you, please don’t give up. I know that he has to be proud of you for your trying to overcome, but he also misses you. So there is a war going on in him as well.
I so hope it all works out.
Hugs
Terry
June 30, 2009 8:07 pm
awww mate well I admire you for saving costs and sorting yourself out and hope that the times you do get to see him are even more enjoyable
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